terça-feira, 18 de setembro de 2012

Forgive...and forgot - can you do it?

And why should we forgive? I like this explanation:

      But we know that on our day by day things are not so easy and maybe the forgiving process can take a while. The singer Adele went through an experience where forgiveness was required. By the way, forgiveness was only necessary if she took into consideration what was told about her. If she didn't bother about what Karl Lagerfeld said, there was absolutely nothing to be forgiven.
     The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as "to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt". In other words it means free pardon and forget it! 
      Forgiveness has been a topic largely studied by religions and most recently, by medicine.  Studies show that people who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments. So, if you want to forgive someone (and for your good health, you should do it) but don't know how to start the forgiving process, don't worry, you're not alone. And there is also the other side, people who want to be forgiven. Some of them want it so badly that try to do something to make it up. Sometimes it can work, but unfortunately it can also make the situation getting worse and worse. 
So the big doubt is: what should I do - to forgive or to be forgiven? 
     To help you and lots of people who are interested in this process, Dr. Ned Hallowell, psychiatrist and author of the book "Dare to Forgive" developed four basic steps to forgive others. Have you got interested? Take a look at the tip below.  After that, click here to read this story about the singer Adele and the fashion designer Karl Lagerfeld. Enjoy your reading and answer the post question. 

Post question: First of all, answer the question at the end of the article you read about Adele and Lagerfeld. If you were Adele, would you forgive him? Why? Could he make it up? Have you developed any strategy to forgive people? What is it?

Tip: Read about the Dr. Ned Hallowell's four basic steps to forgive and give it a try, why not?

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